How hard it's going to be to find contact information for a job I had for like two months back in August 2009.
That shit is the worst.
After making a sandwich just now, I decided to eat it outside. It's a surprisingly nice day out there. Then I got a ladder, and climbed it, so I could see over the fence and look at the hills while I ate. It was nice.
Libby Anne's blog, "Love, Joy, Feminism" has been a go-to for me for awhile. She's one of those people who can take issues that I'm in chaos over, and give them clear definitions. I don't necessarily always agree with her, but she has a personal history that resembles my own in some ways. She often writes on subjects that are personally important to me, but that I've never actually thought about. He blog is a really useful asset, and I thought today's post was pretty interesting for those of us who have a complicated relationship with their parents.
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/lovejoyf…lt-parents.html
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Maintaining a Relationship with Difficult Parents
August 5, 2015 by Libby Anne
Over the years, I have sometimes gotten emails from readers wanting advice on how to deal with controlling and manipulative (if not downright abusive) parents. As my regular readers will know, I have maintained my relationship with my parents in spite of the no good very bad treatment I received from them as I came of age. My parents’ actions—their efforts to control and manipulate and guilt me into being the daughter they wanted me to be—were emotionally abusive. Why did I decided to keep them in my life? How have I navigated my relationship with them over the years?
The pain I suffered the last summer I spent at home was excruciating. When you are in a dangerous situation, your adrenaline spikes, giving you a fight or flight response. Children who live in abusive homes experience this daily—every time their abuser walks in the door. They have to be constantly on guard, constantly ready. My parents never hit me—and never threatened to hit me—but it didn’t matter, the effect was the same. The constant rush of adrenaline, that feeling of being imprisoned with your abuser—it was there. As a society, we have a much better understanding of physical abuse than of emotional abuse, but I would argue that the effects of emotional abuse can be worse and longer lasting.
What made my situation so odd was that I had had a fairly good relationship with my parents up until this point—my mother was always up for baking cookies or working on a crafting project, and my father involved us children in his various carpentry projects around the home and was always happy to play a game of Risk—but things fell apart when I was in college as I exerted a will of my own and began making decisions they disagreed with. It’s not that things were perfect when I was a child—my parents expected immediate obedience, didn’t tolerate “backtalk” (and by that they meant any attempt to explain oneself), and practiced a heavy dose of corporal punishment—but they weren’t like this.
When I left at the end of the summer, I told myself I wasn’t going back. But then, I still had ten younger siblings living at home, all under 18. I had been a second mother to many of them, and I loved them dearly. I went home for Thanksgiving, and home again for Christmas. I tried—so hard, I tried—but it was too much. That Christmas things reached a head when my father yelled at me in front of my siblings, calling me terrible things in an enraged voice that was so unlike my usually quiet father, and all I wanted to do was flee. I was 20 years old.
(The rest is on Libby Anne's blog: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/lovejoyf…lt-parents.html)
Geeeeze man, that's fucking awful. I have a hard time imagining what it would be like to lose your home and all your possessions like that. I'd be an emotional wreck. I imagine anyone would.
Too bad about your SNES and LttP. Fortunately, neither of those is insanely collector's priced. At least, not if you don't need it mint in the box.
@The Inhaling One and I were thinking that it might be fun to play Cards Against Humanity together. And, while we're at it, why not open it up to the whole Zelda Cavern Community? (ZCC is a cool acronym for us).
Obviously, our biggest hurdle to doing this is time zones. I think most of us are in the U.S. / Mexico, and thus all within 4 hours of each other. But I don't want to leave @Kaynil or @Sardonic Pickle out.
Also, would people be able and interested in voice chatting while we play? I have a hard time imagining the game without at least hearing the other players.
Well, I'm fairly involved with tabletop games, and there are a lot of game stores in my area. (Seattle is kinda great for that sort of thing). Plus I used to run a monthly game-day at my house where a bunch of folks would get together to play board games and D&D. So I had a good reason to spend money on the hobby.
I've never actually played Sorry, and I haven't played Life or Uno in years. I don't play a lot of mass market games. Some of them are alright, but most of them are terrible (*coughmonopolycough*) compared to less well known games. Which, I think, is why a lot of adults don't play board games. Because they think all of them are just as bad as Candyland.
I've never played the CAH game online, but I'd be down. We could even try to organize an evening for the rest of Zelda Cavern to all play together.
I like board games, do you?
I also have a copy of Ogre. But Ogre is huge, and doesn't fit on my shelf.
My favorites are probably Damage Report, Nika, Kingdom Builder, Pandemic, Coup, and The Resistance. Though I'd be lying if I didn't say I played a lot more Cards Against Humanity than I play anything else.
DEAD WEST: a fantasy western rpg setting with its own d20 rules that could easily be converted to 5E. Set in Victorika, an end-of-the-line mining town on the far side of a vast unnatural desert but with a much larger world detailed. It’s been two years since a civil war between the victorious “Shacklebane” emancipists and the vanquished “Trammellock” slavers.The nation of Carcassara is slowly rebuilding after the appalling devastation, haunted by the horrors perpetrated in the name of victory.
GOREBALL: Brutal bloodsports boardgame. Love letter to Blood Bowl, but with enough changes to rules and setting to be its own thing. small teams of 6 murderboys try to hurl an acidfilled grenadeball into the mouth of the opponent's monstrous goal. fun. bunch of stuff on my blog about it here:
http://gibletblizzard.blogspot.com.au/search/label/GOREBALL
SWORDS OF NORDHEIM: A 5E setting with strong ties to Norse mythology that I'm currently running and expanding for my kid and cousins' game. Of all the projects this is probably the least detailed but I have a clear vision for it.
TSAR'MERIKA: Originally designed as a WEG D6 rules + setting that could just as easily be 5E, it's a postapoc superpowers/mech/mutants rpg set in a frozen north america ruled by a god-like Tsar.
MUTANTOR: This ol' chestnut... a far future postapoc superpowers/mech/mutants rpg (sensing a theme here) that originally was going to have its own system, but would prolly be 5E now. "Weirdgrim stonepunk" was the tagline, but beyond that I think of all the projects its the one lacking in clearest direction and vision.
The PAL version had something like 9 optional bosses. Evil versions of all of the summoned monsters. It also had the "Expert" sphere grid, which allowed you to level up your characters in totally different ways. I think there were also some rebalancing / bug fixes that made the game work a whole lot better.
I'm sure all that stuff has been included in a re-release at some point. Probably on the PS3 or something. But back in the day it was a huge bummer. Though, granted, I realize that the NTSC game only gets the shaft 1% of the time. The other 99%, it's the PAL version that gets weird downgrades / unnecessary delays.
Malcolm in the Middle isn't that great of a show. Reese is uncomfortably evil, and the mother is literally abusive. She is unequivocally a bad person.
^ Is wrong twice.
< Is neither sleeping, nor feeling sleepy.
V Must post a new thread somewhere on the forum. Something interesting, for us all to enjoy.
I don't know if they have a good reason for it, but it certainly doesn't seem like they do. I imagine it's just they're way of preventing a company in the US from selling games direct to the UK/Australia, and bypassing the official distribution channels. Artificially holding you guys back just so someone whose already rich can get a lot richer.
And it has always annoyed me that the PAL version of FFX had so many features that the North American release didn't have.
I don't care either way. Never use the fight forum myself. Don't like fighting
makes me cry.
Which is kinda part of the problem for me. Is the forum for the kind of fighting that makes people cry? The whole "Go to hell" "suck my dick" kinda fighting? If so, isn't that the kind of behavior moderators are supposed to shut down entirely? Why would there be a forum for something that is against the rules?
I'm being a little facetious here, but I honestly don't understand what the fight forum is for.
Yeah, the whole area with Lethal Lava Land and Shifting Sand Land, and the bunny that you have to catch. I dunno, I always thought something was gonna come up behind me while I was down there. No idea why.
I actually really like Hazy Maze Cave. It's not my favorite world, but it's pretty enjoyable I think. The worst one for me is probably Jolly Roger Bay. Tiny-Huge Island comes a close second.
Well grumble grumble rabble rabble rhubarb watermelon.
The Raid 1 setup is certainly nice. I would hate to lose any posts. Too many good conversations on here already.
Guys, I just found some fucking GOLD:
A website Aerith_Freak and Sheena made together back in 2000/2001...WHICH IS STILL FUCKING ONLINE:
http://pzrpg2.tripod.com/main.shtml
By reading all of your posts here I can tell that that forum was amazing. I'm kind of jealous now. Too bad I was born in 2000 :T_T:
It was definitely a different era. We were hardly the first kids to use the Internet (I never accessed the old mailing list systems, and I certainly never dialed into a BBS), but we were probably the last generation of kids to really embrace the Internet when embracing the Internet was a weird thing to do. Most of the people I knew in real life, kids my own age, thought that meeting/knowing people over the Internet was weird. They rarely or never used instant messengers or email. That was 'nerd stuff,' kinda.
I think the biggest difference between then and now is the way social media has become a monolith. Nowadays, the places where we meet and discuss things online are managed by giant corporations. Facebook, Twitter, Google+, etc. Everyone you will ever meet has heard of the place that you hang out, and while you might carve out a niche for yourself by starting a facebook group or a g+ community, you're ultimately an insignificant part of the greater website.
When TSR was in its heyday, there really wasn't anything like that. Myspace and Friendster didn't really exist yet. There were things like Yahoo groups, but for the most part, "Social Media" (a term which didn't exist yet) was focused around small communities. If you engaged with the community, you could become prominent and well known among everyone on the whole site. And even the newest member could send a message to the administrator and expect a response.
I don't want to say that the old ways were better or worse. But they were different, and I do miss them.
BUT: Don't fall into the trap of wishing you were born earlier. I understand the desire. When I was your age* I wished desperately that I had been born 5-10 years earlier, so that I could have really experienced the rise of the internet, and the BBS era. I actually developed a really dishonest habit of finding something I thought was cool, doing a ton of research on its history, and then acting as though I "remembered" it. I sometimes still catch myself doing that without realizing it. Of course, if I actually had been 5-10 years older, then I would have found the hilarious / entertaining antics that were going on at TSR to be childish and annoying, and I never would have hung out there in the first place. =P
It's a fact: experience is sexy. A person who has already done cool things in their life is a cool person. But there are always cool things going on, and cool experiences to have. The trick is to engage with what's happening around you right now. Because in 15 years, the stuff that's happening right now will seem like some kind of badass wild west.
*I am deeply sorry for starting a sentence that way. It applies in this situation, but I know it makes me sound like a jackass.
Who all has played these games, and what did you think?
If they're not both in your top 10 favorite games of all time, you're wrong and you're a bad person.
Granted, it got less neat once I realized that the language kept changing. I thought the whole thing was in Spanish until after I made the gif.
Alright, @Link . I want answers.
Do you have any idea how many times I refreshed the boards, hoping against hope that they were back online? TWO DAYS! What do you have to say for yourself?
It's baffling, right? Like, supposedly they disbanded the Jury because the scientific evidence would bee too sciencey for normal folks. Never acknowledging that the Judge, Lawyers, Defendants, Plaintiffs, and everyone involved was almost certainly not a scientist of any type. What makes them better judges of science based testimony than a jury which could very well include an actual scientist. And for serious, that case went on too fucking long. I know this is England, so the US Constitution is meaningless legally. But the ideal of a speedy trial is an important one. It's completely tyrannical to force those poor people to defend themselves for such a significant portion of their lives.
So... I Was reading that Mcdonald's is losing the millennials.
:XD:
That doesn't surprise me. I don't know if I'm too old to be considered a millennial or not, but I've eaten at McDonalds maybe a handful of times in the last 5 years. Their food is generally pretty gross. I really only eat there if it's the only thing available, or if I'm going out with a group and everyone else wants to go there.
Also, the phrase "Promiscuous in their brand loyalty" makes me laugh. Fuck that noise. Brand loyalty is a ridiculous notion to begin with, the idea that we should somehow feel a sense of obligation to corporations. And their use of the word "promiscuous" makes it sound like a distinctly bad thing. As if we're somehow sinful for not getting married to a single fast food chain.
I'm really glad someone else enjoyed this as much as I did.
