[NRC/+15] Is porn a bad thing?

don't talk bad about my porn writing dude.

I think that porn has it's place and use. For single adults, or for couples in their relationships, it can help out. However, I'm one of those ladies that pretty much doesn't watch porn and if I'm in a relationship with a guy, I expect him not to watch it either. I'm very upfront about it very early on (pretty much the first two weeks in), and tell him if he'd rather watch porn I'd rather be with someone else or alone. I know other people in relationships can watch it together and be perfectly happy. I'm just not one of them. I give him time and leniency, but if him and I are going to be a thing... Well, he has to respect that part of me. Even saying it now seems unreasonable and childish, but I can't help how I feel. There's some give and take in every relationship. I just wish I was mature enough to not be hurt by my boyfriend watching porn. But it hurts my feelings and my self esteem.

For me, I just don't find an interest in it. I'd rather spend my time on other things. There's probably at least a couple million other things I'd rather do than sit down to watch some porn. I don't think it's bad, but I do think it places unrealistic expectations on both men and women and how they can/should act during sex. I know that reasonable adults can separate porn from reality, but I think on a whole (considering the masses are generally braindead) most people consider what the pornstars do obtainable fantasies that they can try to impose on their significant other.

Really unless you have a strong moral viewpoint it's gonna be hard to prove that porn is a bad thing unless you want to go into child pornography or rape. Because porn is as far as anyone without religious or moral views two or one or three people rubbing in a certain way that it pleases the senses. However if you want to go ahead and bring religion into the deal in is considered an intrinsic evil to the Catholic church any non-denomination or religion other than that however I can say with 99.999% clarity will not be able to prove this. I'm going to refrain for the sake of my fingers from explain how it is evil within the Catholic church unless someone has been told otherwise or wants me to elaborate.

From a common line of decency which is possible to be shared across the board however pornography is simply looked upon as gross in the public of modern culture. There is no grounds or thesis that this culture has that are strong enough or willing to make it seem there is anything wrong with pornography. But since the levels of equality and lack of strong willed men that exist in culture today(American speaking for Merica when I talk about culture sorry I'm not to educated on that much of the rest of the world) women's opinions are taken very very seriously and held in a much higher esteem than men's even still which is a debate for another day.

But women most commonly do not find any pleasure from pornography and find it visually appalling most of the time. Men on the other hand have a particular part of their brain which is sensory and creates something referred to as dopamine which essentially produces pleasure. Sex, and even drugs like cocaine effect this portion of the brain producing pleasure. Men on the other hand are able to effect that receptor in their brain through visuals where as it is not as strong in women. Also I mentioned cocaine? Yeah pornography and sex and masturbation etc. are all just as addicting because they effect the same sensors in the brain. Now when I say this I am speaking of men. Women are less likely to get addicted to such things however when woman do sway towards pornography it is in the form of novels or stories etc. 50 shades of grey and 50 shades darker for instance.

I can go on and on and on but I guess I'll just leave this here and see what happens

Now that 50 Shades of Gray has been mentioned, I can put this down.

It doesn't occur to me the logic that it takes for both partners to have this kind of logic:

Man: *watches porn*
Woman: Stop watching porn
Woman: *reads porn*
Man: Stop reading porn.

See what the issue is there? It does exist, and it baffles me.

@Silent Lion regarding the issue of hentai, it's not as bad but I still prefer that neither of us watches it. It's more of a courtesy thing than anything. I think that hentai and books aren't as damaging as actual porn to relationships, although that's probably bias. I have no real intellectual proof on it.

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@Edward_Stryfe A lot of interesting facts. What's your opinion on all those facts? You're against porn purely on Catholic grounds?

Well that and just instinctual moral grounds I'll admit I've participated in it and regret it. ONce you stop though you realize it's just stupid and gross. That's really it I mean esentially your watching people rub skin. . . The fact that I found pleasure in that is baffling (also I was 9ish at the time)

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I think that porn has it's place and use. For single adults, or for couples in their relationships, it can help out. However, I'm one of those ladies that pretty much doesn't watch porn and if I'm in a relationship with a guy, I expect him not to watch it either. I'm very upfront about it very early on (pretty much the first two weeks in), and tell him if he'd rather watch porn I'd rather be with someone else or alone. I know other people in relationships can watch it together and be perfectly happy. I'm just not one of them. I give him time and leniency, but if him and I are going to be a thing... Well, he has to respect that part of me. Even saying it now seems unreasonable and childish, but I can't help how I feel. There's some give and take in every relationship. I just wish I was mature enough to not be hurt by my boyfriend watching porn. But it hurts my feelings and my self esteem.

So you expect him to masturbate without any source of stimulation material?

He doesn't masturbate, actually. :]

or so he says.

Who doesn't? Wait, are you in a relationship?

I live with my boyfriend. >.> Unless he does those things at work... or in his car...

And yeah.